Answers on a postcard please.

My son starts school a week on Monday. I am missing the gene that means I should cry when I drop him off, I am too excited to be sad. What I am having issues with is whether or not to work full time.

My work is based 86miles from my house, I commute on a Monday and commute back on a Tuesday late night, arriving home at 10:30pm or later each week. I then work from home or London on a Wednesday. Reading between the lines from discussions with my management, I need to work full time to progress or I risk being left behind. How do I do that? Do I put my son to bed on a Sunday night, leave at 6am Monday and return 10:30pm on a Thursday night to then work from home on a Friday? Can mine and my son’s relationship sustain that break 48 weeks of the year? Can you never  pick up your child from school, not attend parent teacher meetings, not attend morning assembly’s, not help with homework?

Could my marriage sustain that break 48 weeks of the year?

For our financial security and financial future, working full time could mean the mortgage is paid off sooner, the pension fund is healthier and we could retire sooner, but is it worth the sacrifice, especially if I don’t have someone to retire with? Or is the key to happy loving relationships quality time not quantity time?

How do I fit in the OU study I have been thinking I will have the time  to do since January? Who will do the food shopping, the cleaning, the washing, the ironing, the vets visits, Drs or Dentists visits, who will remeber to make the beds, ensure that the tooth fairy visits on time….. Is more money worth that?

Someone said “your son is at school, you have to now think about you” is work though really thinking about “me” or is it me keeping someone else happy?

I don’t know the answer, I have been dancing with myself to this particular tune for a fortnight now, the music stops at the end of the month.

Answers on a postcard please…